Good Morning Beautiful!
When you are at the end of your time here on Earth, what will you be proud of and what will you regret? I believe we will regret things we didn’t do more than the things we did. How many family pictures are you behind the camera, instead of next to your sweet babies? Were you running around that water park during summer vacation like a kid with your family, having a blast, or were you hiding out under the cabana with a book? How much time will we waste being scared of not pleasing others, thinking we are not good enough to be in their presence? What about never publishing your book or opening your own store to sell your handmade furniture? These examples may not seem devastating to you now, but I strongly feel that they’ll have a profound saddening effect on us later in life, especially when they involve time with loved ones. Time is precious, and you won’t be getting any extra. There is no bonus round in our life here. When our time is up, it’s up. How will you be remembered?
People pleasing can be a destructive, time sucking waste of time. Always trying to be what you think people want to see or what will impress them is exhausting, and in most cases, without reward. Let me give you some examples of how people please me. I am pleased when my kids do chores without my reminding them. I love when my husband picks up the kids from school for me on my day off, allowing me more time at home alone, or when someone at the store with a basket full of stuff lets me go ahead in line, because I am only buying leggings for my daughter who forgot hers at home, causing us to be late, again, to dance. Oh, and one of my favorite things is when someone brings me cupcakes! Now, when I look at all of these things, not one of them has anything to do with the way the person looks or their ability to perform to a certain level. They are just simple acts of kindness that, most days, will lead to a boost in my mood and a desire to pay it forward. What pleases you? I bet you will think of similar situations. I cannot think of a time that I felt happier or uplifted because someone near me looked like someone on the cover of an Oxygen magazine. I might briefly think to myself, they look nice, and even share the compliment. Then I continue on my day, but I don’t feel like their appearance was for me or to please me. If we are going to people please, let’s do it by being good, not looking good. Giving always feels right and good. I can guarantee you will not regret being kind.
If we can let go of the pressure to perform or feeling like we always have to be put together, we are free to enjoy the life we have been given as it was intended. We can be free to share our gifts with our family, friends, and the world. If you are withholding your time with your loved ones, you are cheating them out of your love. Don’t waste this life worrying if your butt jiggles too much when you are playing tag with your kids. Don’t spend another minute tensed up, because you’re sucking in your soft, comfortable tummy. You’re not pleasing or fooling anyone; you’re only hurting yourself. Let all of your love hang out for the world to enjoy.
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.”
Who is stealing your joy? Live the life God gave you with so much joy and love, that it overflows on to everyone whose path you cross. God didn’t intend for you to hide, you have a purpose.