Letting Go of Judgments, A Confidence Builder

I have a challenge for you.  This will seem strange to most, but I am here to tell you if you succeed in this your life will forever change for the better. Your self-confidence will begin to climb to new heights.  Here it is; stop judging others.  Stop any and all judgment you have that comes to mind when you walk into a room full of people, be it friends, family, or strangers.  It usually sounds like “I cannot believe she is wearing that”, “Why won’t they shut that kid up”, “Wow, that hair color is ridiculous”, “Do they really think they are burning calories doing that”, or “Fast food again huh, go ahead and supersize it while you’re there”.  Harsh, right?  I could go on and on, and you want to know why?  Well, I am ashamed to admit this, but because those are things I have said.  I think most of us have, and it’s so automatic.  We have been so brainwashed by the media about what's right or wrong, and what is considered pretty or ugly.  It's like our brains are on autopilot and it might even seem ok since everyone else is doing it, it must be right, right?  I am writing today to help you understand just how self-destructive these thoughts are.  I’m sure you were thinking that I was going to preach how it is wrong to do this because of how it hurts the person you are talking about, but that’s not the main point today.  I think you all know how hurtful your judgments can be to someone else.  Are you aware, though, how hurtful they are to you?  By constantly picking someone apart in your head you are creating measurements or standards that you will later use against yourself.  

       What happens when we feel we feel we are getting judged by someone else for something we are or are doing?  We become hurt, angered, scared, or insecure.  All bad, and we then begin to want to change or hide away altogether.  What if these types of judgments didn’t exist?  Things would be so different.  Without the negative comparisons, we would have no measurements of the way things should or shouldn’t be, any size or shape would be ok.  You can begin to create a life with less pain of rejection or ridicule simply by letting go of judging others.  This can help free your mind of wondering what others are saying about you, because it will no longer be something you practice and, therefore, you will not be thinking of negative judgments as a thing that anyone does.  It will take some time to retrain your brain, the auto-pilot has been left on for far too long.  Each time you begin to have a judgment about someone immediately stop and turn it into a compliment for that person.  You don’t even have to say anything out loud, just change your internal conversation.  Of course, a nice comment to a friend or stranger is always a good thing, and speaking a kind word will also help you in your journey.  You might even, with time, begin to think others are complimenting you in their head, not judging.  Wouldn’t that be a good day, the day you walk around with so much confidence that you see others as allies rather than someone to hide from! You have power over your mind, therefore, you have the ability to choose to believe what you want.  I beg you to take this advice and run with it.  It is a simple act of love.  You could say that the opposite of judgment here is love, and the love you will be pouring out in your mind will benefit others and yourself.  Stop judging others for a while and see how your life begins to change for the better.  

      Ephesians 4:29 says

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

I have recently begun thinking more about what God thinks of me and less of others.  I don't want to hurt Him by speaking ill of others.  I still fail a lot, but I am quick to ask forgiveness, and He pours out HIs love.  I am a work in progress, so I look to God and His word for guidance each day.  This is where my thoughts and ideas stem from, His truth.