Good Morning Beautiful
The title of this message is a reminder. I am writing today to share a beautiful idea that came to me this morning. I believe it is the magic you have all been looking for, and it is the truth we have been dying to find.
Have you ever been in a room filled with people when that one woman enters… The one everyone notices? The air in the room lightens; the light in the room brightens. She is always smiling, and her movements are balanced and poised. (Notice, I didn’t mention her appearance because, well, it doesn’t matter.) She owns herself. She might have just crawled out of bed, yet you don’t even notice because her being is beautiful in all states. She’s the one everyone wants to be. They long for her self-loving acceptance and confidence. Right? I know I do…
I am convinced that the way to peace is lying within you. It is in your own heart and it is waiting to be discovered. I know, I know… It’s easier said than done. But, has anything you have ever been really good at or proud of ever come easy? It has been said that if you want something you’ve never had, you must do something you’ve never done.
There is work to be done if you are to find the peace you long for. Here’s the work: You have to love yourself a hundred times each day if necessary. Every time a self-destructive thought creeps into your mind it has to be stopped, even if you don’t think you can or even want to fight them off. In fact, those times are actually the most important. It’s like those last two reps or sets at the gym. Your body is spent, and you feel like there is nothing left to give, but those last ones are the ones that make the difference. That extra bit of effort is where your new strength will come from. In those moments of despair when you hardly feel like getting dressed in the morning, LOVE your self up. Stop the thoughts by thinking of something, anything that brings a smile you your face. Your kids, your love, or, in my case, my Great Grandmother’s smile. Then take 10 long slow deep breaths holding them in on the inhale for about 3 seconds. Start to challenge the negative thought that is torturing you by replacing it with a new beautiful truth about your self. I like to have little mantras, if you will, that I use during times like these. Repeat again and again until you begin to feel love, or even just a glimmer of hope for good to come.
“For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever. So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather, we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever” (2 Corinthians 4:17-18)
Even stronger than our own love, is the love God has for us. When you cannot muster your own strength, go to God and ask him for help. He will deliver. He already sees you as perfect, and without flaws. Hesees only the child that He created. “And God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”(Genesis 1:27) What can be more perfect or beautiful than that which is created by our Father? Who are we to hate something He created?
So, sit. Give yourself 10 minutes to ask Father to pour His love in and all over your heart and soul. Try to envision yourself through His eyes, and then go about your day holding onto His love. Pay attention to all things good, and also those that are not so good in your day… Give thanks to Him for ALL things, for there is good in everything. If you do this, your perception will change. You will be open to seeing yourself as the beautiful, perfect woman you are, and open to loving your body. Your body, after all, is the vessel God gave you to live out His plans for you in this life. Who you are resides inside your body. Your love and caring and gifts… they all come from the inside. As you begin to grow stronger, and tuning into your heart for love given by the Father, the bad days become fewer, and farther apart.
No one else's perception of you matters. If someone doesn't like you because of your dress size, hairstyle, or outfit, then guess what? They just did you a huge favor. Cross them off the list of people you care about. Those people do not belong in your life. You no longer have to worry about them. Done. The people in your life who love you do not want you wasting your time and energy, trying to change. They have already accepted you. You’ve already got what you need. When you act like you are not enough and are unworthy of love, that is exactly what you create. You put up a wall with a sign on it that says, “UNDER CONSTRUCTION, STAY BACK!”. No one likes construction! It’s chaos. So, it is time to pull yourself together and tear down those walls. Let God and your loved ones in to enjoy your gifts and the love you have to give. Just as you are, right now, today.
I am choosing a life of love and abundance, and I want you to join me. Here is my new mantra. It replaces the nasty thoughts that I have allowed space for too long:
“Good Morning Beautiful! I no longer accept the lie that I am not good enough. Today I choose to believe in God’s love for me. I accept myself right now, today, in this body. I am to be adored and will treat myself as such. I will spoil myself with love and kindness because I deserve it.”
Love and Many Blessings,